Is the Frequency of Shame Affecting Your Vaginal Health?

Hey there, I’m Jessica Ella.

As a Women’s Healing Expert & Founder of Aaruka® (Australia’s only complete healing method), I’ve spent the last five years working with thousands of women, guiding them to transform their deep-rooted pain, trapped emotions, limiting beliefs & past trauma so that they can create a life of freedom, love & power.

The question on my mind has always been - what stops us from stepping into this freedom, love & power that is inherently ours? And the answer, for most women, is stemming from shame.
 
Fact: did you know that shame (on a scientific/frequency level) is THE lowest vibration possible?
 
You may have heard that “the body keeps the score,” but what does that really mean? Holding onto shame effects the body on a cellular level. I’ve learned, through both personal healing and work with clients, that our bodies hold onto every wound—especially when we feel shame. 
Where you hold the shame in your body is where the cells will create dis-ease. Can you guess where 99% of my female clients hold shame in their bodies?
You may have guessed it - it’s your vagina.

Shame is a powerful, yet toxic emotion. When you try to ignore it, suppress it or distract yourself from it, it can become a silent force that erodes not only our confidence, joy & self worth but our physical health as well. 
This is why so many women experience health issues related to their vaginas, like chronic pain, BV, thrush, endometriosis, or pelvic issues. If there is dis-ease on an emotional level, there will be dis-ease on a  cellular level.

You may be thinking, what causes us to store shame?
I see client after client, carrying the weight of shame daily. So much so, that it becomes her normal.  She is ashamed of her body, her lack of purpose and her perceived shortcomings as a friend, partner or mother. 
Society has jumper leads on our consciousness, leading the majority of us to believe that our vaginas are simply here for birth or a man’s pleasure. When it comes to our vagina, we are taught to just ‘pretend it isn’t there’. This is a root cause of shame in itself - and we haven’t even touched on the sexual trauma that many women have faced (1 in 3 in Australia to be exact).


I work with women Australia-wide who have subconscious beliefs (created from past experiences that they have stored) of:

“It’s not safe to be sexual”
“It’s not safe to by sexy”
“It’s not safe to receive pleasure”
“I can’t enjoy life”
“I am ashamed of myself”
“I am not worthy of…”
“Sex isn’t pleasurable”
“Sex is shameful”
“Sex is embarrassing”
“I have to give my body to be loved”
“Sex is for the man”

These subconscious beliefs wreak havoc on your cells.They result in lowered sex drives, zero pleasure in life and women who are saying yes when they want to say no. The body feels this as violation and your cells respond by attacking or ‘cutting you off’ energetically from the part of your body that feels shameful or violate. And then we wonder why we are getting UTI’s, BV, infections, endometriosis. I believe our body is trying to HELP us by alerting us with issues in this area, so that we focus on what needs to be healed there.
The perfect example of how powerful the body is and how the body can physically keep the score, is one of my own trauma. 

*Trigger Warning: CSA*
When I was 3 years old I began to be sexually abused regularly by my father. At this age I knew no different but felt the shame that he felt when abusing. I knew that this abuse felt unsafe, terrifying & shameful, so my body did what bodies do best, it protected me.
When I was 5 years old I had what is called Labial Fusion where the skin on the opening of my vagina closed over. Our bodies know how to protect us - even when our conscious mind tells us that ‘everything is ok’. 


I believe that the vaginal issues you face are signals from your body that healing needs to happen here, because if you really think about it…Your vagina is a portal between your thighs that can bring human souls onto this planet AND it has 8-10,000 nerve endings that are there solely for a woman’s pleasure. You were literally designed to receive, create & enjoy life!
I bet you’re wondering, how do I begin to heal my body of the shame it is holding?

Journalling for Releasing Shame

1. Use Journaling to Identify the Source of Shame
   Start by writing down everything you’re too afraid to say out loud because of embarrassment. Reflect on what you feel most ashamed of and try to pinpoint when and where this shame began.
   
   
2. Pinpoint the Root Cause
   Once you’ve identified the starting point of your shame, write about the experience in detail. Describe what happened, how it made you feel, and the belief you formed about yourself because of it.
   
   
3. Challenge the Belief
   Beneath your description, write the question: “What else could be true?” Challenge yourself to reframe the meaning of that experience.
   For example: If a sexual experience led you to believe, “There’s something wrong with me,” you could reframe it as, “I didn’t know any better at the time.”

Breathwork and Somatic Practices to Release Shame

1. Explore Breathwork for Emotional Release
   Seek out a local breathwork facilitator. Breathwork is a powerful somatic tool to access, process, and release stuck emotions from the body. Set a clear intention, such as releasing shame, before starting your session. This focused intention can help guide your experience and allow for deeper emotional release.
   
   
2. Try Somatic Practices at Home
   If breathwork sessions aren’t accessible, you can explore somatic techniques to connect with your body. Here's a simple practice to begin:
• Lay down in a comfortable space and close your eyes.
• Take slow, deep breaths and focus all your attention on your vagina. Notice any sensations, feelings, or thoughts that arise.
• Acknowledge that your body, including your vagina, holds deep intelligence and wisdom, often beyond what your mind can comprehend.
  
  
3. Ask Your Body Questions
   While staying present, gently ask your body questions like:
• “Where is this pain coming from?”
• “What do you need?”
• “What message are you trying to send me with this pain?”
  
  
4. Journal Your Insights
   Write down any thoughts, feelings, or images that surface during this practice. These insights serve as a guide to help you make meaningful changes.
   
   
5. Practice and Trust the Process
   Listening to your body takes practice. Over time, as you deepen your connection, your body’s messages will become clearer and more intuitive. Stick with it—the results can be transformative.